Dudu
muses on what 'foreign' really means.

 

I listened with shock to reports of xenophobic violence in Alexandra as I arrived back home in Johannesburg from an eleven day stay in Swaziland. I had been missing home. As strange as it may sound, I call Johannesburg home. After being in the city of gold for a year surely I can call it home?  This sentiment however does not seem to be shared by those I consider my brothers and sisters. I am a foreigner; others even call me an alien. I wonder from which planet I fell from seeing I am from just across the river Limpopo.

In my mind I thought it would end with Alexandra, it possibly could not spread to other areas. I was wrong. It spread like a wild fire, shouts came from all ends, newspapers were in business, the selling-story being refugees in crisis.

Don’t they know, not all of us are refugees. Some of us are just migrants, some of us have identity documents others do not but that doesn’t make us less of a person does it? We have blood running through our veins just like you. We have loved ones, brothers, sisters, mothers and friends just like you. We have dreams, aspirations and ambitions just like you.

he phone calls start, emails and sms’s. Everyone wants to know if I am safe. Well I am safe. Never in my life have I felt guilty about being safe like now. How is it that I am safe yet someone sleeps outside? Another is not sure if they will be alive tomorrow. Mobs may attack their area. Nobody knows who, where next the fire will spread to. Yet I remain safe and confident and my life goes on.

Is there anything I can do? How can I help, can I help? No I cannot. I fear helping makes me vulnerable too. Is this how life is to be; that I preserve my life at all cost even though it means another will lose theirs? Is this really about foreigners?

I choose not to believe I am under attack for speaking a different language, having darker skin or being taller. We all are responsible. We have allowed violence to go unpunished. We have allowed them to beat up, rape and kill women, AIDS activists, lesbians. Why should they not kill the foreigner he or she is not like them?

Just wait and see tomorrow you will be the different one because you do not speak their language. Yes, you were born in South Africa but because you do not speak their language it will be your chance to burn. It will be your chance to burn if we do not stop this now! Violence never was the solution. Let’s fights the war, but at all costs let our weapon be peace which awards dignity to all.

 

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Welcome

Sonke Gender Justice Network works across Africa to strengthen government, civil society and citizen capacity to support men and boys to take action to:

  • promote gender equality,
  • prevent domestic and sexual violence, and
  • reduce the spread and impact of HIV and AIDS.

In this way the organisation contributes to the development of societies in which men, women, youth and children can enjoy equitable, healthy and happy relationships that contribute to the development of just and democratic societies.

The One Man Can campaign is Sonke's flagship project.


Current Projects

Red Card Against Child Sexual Exploitation

The Red Card Project is a joint campaign by Sonke Gender Justice Network and Grassroot Soccer to prevent child sexual exploitation in Southern Africa during and after the 2010 FIFA World Cup. This project is funded mainly by the Oak Foundation.

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Brothers for Life

Brothers for Life is a National Campaign targeting men over the age of 30. The initiative has been initiated by Johns Hopkins Health and Education in South Africa (JHHESA), Sonke Gender Justice (Sonke), South African National Aids Council (SANAC) and other key stakeholders. It is aimed at addressing the risks associated with having multiple and concurrent partnerships, men’s limited involvement in fatherhood, lack of knowledge of HIV status by many, low levels of testing and disclosure, and insufficient health seeking behaviours in general.

 

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Advocacy and Activism

By using the media to highlight gender and HIV/AIDS issues, the Advocacy Project is strengthening citizen participation and government accountability.

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Highlights

Sonke and partners are aiming to get 1 million pledge signatures for the Unite As One campaign. Pledge now by SMS'ing "unite" and your name and surname to 32759.

 

Sonke Director Dean Peacock has presented to the 17th International AIDS Conference in Vienna on male involvement in the prevention of mother-to-child transmission (PMTCT) of HIV.
> Download the presentation
> Download the workshop description
> Download the workshop agenda

 

Sonke has joined civil socity organisations and individuals from around South Africa condemning xenophobia.
> join us by signing the Unite As One pledge
> read the civil society memo to the SAPS

 

Sonke joins other HIV/AIDS organisations in condemning blockages by FIFA and LOC to make condoms and health-related materials available in FIFA controlled Stadia, fan parks and fan fests.
>> read the civil society statement